26 Apr A Guide for Blended Family Finances
Combining two families via a second marriage can be challenging and requires patience. Still, the result can be a strong, bonded, blended family that welcomes and provides for everyone. Getting there means having a clear plan, communicating feelings and needs honestly, setting good boundaries, and being very transparent about the essentials.
The financial underpinning of family life follows the same playbook. You’ll need a plan to incorporate existing finances, respect financial obligations related to previous relationships, and create a structure to move forward together while protecting each other’s existing families.
Map the Money
Go into the financial planning stage of your relationship with a clear idea of each spouse’s financial situation. Set up a meeting where you’ll have space and won’t be disturbed for several hours. Your goal is to be as honest and transparent as possible about every aspect of your financial life. Full disclosure now is how you can begin to make informed decisions about how you will pay shared household bills, who will pay what expenses for children, and what expectations are.
On the debt side, you want to understand existing bills, credit card balances, loan payments, mortgages and leases, tuition payments, average household expenses, etc. Alimony and child support expenses may be included here, or they may be in your income column.
When setting out income, be sure to include everything – you’ll want to do some tax planning, so you’ll need to have a clear idea of what each spouse makes and the total household income. If you have any agreement with an ex-spouse over future payments, the sale of property, or any other financial arrangement, that should be made clear.
Whether you are sharing assets or not, it’s good to be upfront about retirement fund assets, brokerage accounts, education savings plans, and any valuable property. You’ll also want to disclose your credit rating. You’ll need to make informed decisions as a couple about the best way to manage debt or large purchases, and credit scores are a big part of that.
Create a Plan for Household Expenses
Everyone does this differently, and there’s no “right” way. Depending on income, one partner may pay all the expenses, or they may be split according to each partner’s income. Creating a basic budget can help you understand each partner’s expectations as part of this exercise.
- What are the most important things to spend money on?
- Where do you want to vacation?
- How often do you make large purchases (cars, art, etc.)?
Understanding what each person values from the beginning can help you set up a plan that negotiates these purchases in advance, avoiding anger, anxiety, and hurt feelings later.
Whatever the spending arrangement is, you’ll also need to figure out an equitable way to pay for children’s expenses. The goal is to ensure that all the children are treated fairly and as much alike as possible.
Plan for Future Spending and Saving
Once you’ve disclosed your current financial situation and figured out a working budget to pay for it, you can shift your financial focus to goal-setting. How will you plan for a future life together, what arrangements will you make if the employment picture changes for one spouse, and what each spouse wants to do in their career? This can help keep you united as you transition from “yours” and “mine” to “ours.”
Conceptualize your estate plan by thinking through what each spouse’s children will receive from their separate estates and if any bequests will be made from a joint estate. Carry out the plan by ensuring that all accounts are held in the correct names, beneficiaries are updated, and trusts are set up where necessary.
The Bottom Line
Blending finances as part of a second marriage are critical to ensuring that everyone’s needs are met, now and in the future. It can be challenging to initiate these conversations and create suitable structures to implement a plan, but working with a financial advisor who can bring both spouses’ needs into the conversation can keep you on track.
The information contained herein is intended to be used for educational purposes only and is not exhaustive. Diversification and/or any strategy that may be discussed does not guarantee against investment losses but are intended to help manage risk and return. If applicable, historical discussions and/or opinions are not predictive of future events. The content is presented in good faith and has been drawn from sources believed to be reliable. The content is not intended to be legal, tax or financial advice. Please consult a legal, tax or financial professional for information specific to your individual situation.
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